For the most part, before the whole bended knee and “oh my goodness, YES!” takes place we would have already exchanged the words “I love you” and we continue to show just how much we do in our everyday.
Now the big day is fast approaching and expressing those butterfly like feelings is a little different. Firstly, closest family and friends are listening in to your every word; it’s not just the two of you plopped on the sofa with Netflix in the background. Second of all, the overall setting is quite formal.
Without a doubt, the thought of it is starting to come of concern. It’s a bit more intimidating, and a tad less intimate then the usual every day expression of love, and gratitude for each other.
The tear jerking specifics of what you say and how you choose to say it is entirely up to you. Here’s some wisdom to get that pen moving.
- Remember, reflect
Remember this is a beautiful, pure process and it’s not supposed to be some daunting task. Reflect on your times together, inside jokes, the story of your love and how it evolved. Keep centred what’s really important and why you said yes! This should make the writing process genuine and less stressful.
- Don’t leave it for the last minute.
Often the tasks that rank higher in importance are put off. The irony is uncanny – however, it’s true. Writing your vows is slightly different; there is no room for procrastination. Give yourself a few weeks to play around with words, and gather your thoughts. This will be a fun process. Jotting down a few lines each day is great too, this way you are able to set aside whatever else you have going on and reflect, relive and remember your significant other and the amount of love you have for them. Don’t worry too much about tapping into your final draft the week of the wedding. It’s fine. Often, re-writing can be a good thing. Wingin’ it is a no no, ad-lips are fine because often you’ll find yourself in the moment and something different then what you planned could come to mind. Don’t stress. Enjoy that moment!
- Use your own voice.
We get it, it’s a fancy, formal event – or so it appears. But the exchange of vows should come from the truest part of who you are, your heart. Speak well, and articulate your feelings and love in a way that best suits you. Rid yourself of high-flung language that just isn’t you. Be corky, sweet – often humor in the midst is a great add on. Treat your guests with a little chuckle. Simple and from the heart is the best way to approach this process. Remember, the people that support you and choose to witness this special moment, especially your significant other- love you so much already. Just be you, authentically you.